WHEN SUCCESS SEEEMS TO BE JUST WHAT HAPPENS TO OTHERS
I am so excited because today I want to share with you the most important and
intimate secret that can help you achieve all the success you want.
Some rich and famous people use it all the time. And let me tell you, they may
not even know what it is. But is the key to their success. Here is your chance
to get hold of this secret too.
It is necessary to talk and understand about other people’s success first. Let
me ask you this:
Have you ever felt resentful by someone else’s better fortune?
Seriously, this is very important.
Have you ever felt bad because someone else won a promotion or a prize? Or bought
a new car? And you didn’t.
Don’t things like this make you feel like you have no luck, like a loser or a bit
of a failure, as if the sun shines always on someone else’s yard? Don’t you
think for a while that this person doesn’t even deserve it? It makes you feel
like your efforts are in vein, there is always someone else getting away with the
prize? Do things like this frustrate you and make you experience all sort of
negative thoughts?
“Why not me!? When is something that good going to happened to me?”
Let me ask it another way… do you ever envy others for their accomplishments,
successes and things they got?
Well, then stop. This is not doing you any good. Envy is not making YOU any
good. You do not deserve feeling this way. You do not have to suffer from envy.
Do not let envy knock on your door.
Like at the end of a sport match the “loosers” stand up, congratulate and shake
hands with the winners.
This is exactly what you have to do. You have to keep your eyes and heart open,
and applaud those who have accomplished things.
I am not telling you this just to make you feel like you are a bad person, not
at all. Applaud other people’s triumphs because this shows you that you can
triumph too. If they can, you can. When someone achieves something, is because
they deserved it, or at least they work hard for it. Or perhaps, they really
really wanted it, may be even more than you did. Or simply because they knew
better… And all these efforts and tenacity deserve to be applauded.
You may say again, ok Marcela but “what is there for me to take?” You have to
take with you the understanding that when a person wants something strongly
enough, he or she will eventually get it. And that person may be you one day; it
WILL be you one day. So better prepare for that day…
And tell me now, think about one thing you want strongly enough… What is that
thing that you want sooo much that if you have to prepare and you have to work
hard for it or whatever it will take, you will do it. You may have to study
further, but it is not a burden for you anymore because you really want it…have
you found that thing?...what is it? Don’t tell me, don’t tell me, keep it in
your mind. Even better right it down. Now, I can tell you, that thing that you
desire so strongly, you will get it. There is not stopping you.
But there is a secret here. You have to want something that suits your genuine
needs and wants. If it does not suit you, if it does not resonate with you, it
will not work. This is why is so important to improve ourselves, to know
ourselves. And this is one of the reasons why we need to develop our
personality, to know what we want, what suits us…not what suits others. Are you
sure that what the other one got, is what you want?
We need to want and pursue our own successes.
Notice that I said it in plural, successes. Yes you are going to have lots of
successes.
And it is easier than you think.
Let me give you the key that will open the door to all your success. Allow me to
say it loud.
Just be You!
That is it, that is the key, just be you. See how easy it is, life is simpler
than we were told. It is almost opposite of what our parents and society told
us.
When you focus on being you, on doing the things that truly make you happy, those
things that resonate with you then you will be in your way to getting what you
want and need.
In the end you will find out that to each one their own success.
And to you, your own.
Now I invite you to think of everything you want to accomplish or you want to
have, or experience and allow yourself to dream. Remember, in the end envy takes
attention away from you opportunity to focus on your life, your Unique Self
Success.
YOU ARE UNIQUE
If I could pick only one subject as the most
relevant to achieve success in our life,
I would tell you diamonds.
Everybody, each one of us, is as unique as a
diamond.
See, diamonds are all different, the clarity,
color, and inclusions.
They have different cuts.
Not even two diamonds with the same cut will come
out the exactly the same, there will be
differences in the culet, crown or girdle.
The polish and shine will be equally different.
We humans are the same; it does matter not how
many of us there are in this world.
We are all different.
It is impossible to think of or name all the
qualities or "ingredients" that compose humans.
Lets see, it could be hair quantity, intelligence,
language ability, temperament, pulmonary capacity,
tenderness, eagerness, elasticity…etc.
And the proportion and combination of them
produces so many variables.
Incommensurable. Infinite.
So we can have the same qualities but never, ever
in the same proportion.
That is exactly what makes us unique.
We all have more of this, less of that.
More of that, and less of this.
Enjoy your uniqueness.
We are all special.
We all have a gift.
The gift of uniqueness.
But not all of us know it.
Some know it, but do not appreciate it.
Others chose to ignore it.
We have to treasure this gift and cultivate it.
Cultivate your uniqueness and see yourself
succeed.
PLAYING TO GIVE YOU A ZEST FOR LIFE
I am feeling very excited today as I really like the topic I am going to talk to
you about. It is the secret to keep you young, as long as you can…(I told you I
like it!)
In fact I developed a liking for this ever since I was a child.
It is still close to my heart.
So close that it makes my heart beat faster.
Playing!
That is what I want to talk about today.
Playing.
Never give up playing!
It is a lie that grown ups do not play, I don't buy that lie.
Do you?
Are you one of those who takes things too seriously?
Watch it, you might have already added more years than you should to your looks.
Did you ever see old people playing with their grandchildren and notice how their
faces become illuminated, with a glow of life?
This is the glow of enthusiasm!
Play and be curious like when you were a kid.
Playing keeps your heart young; curiosity keeps your brain stimulated.
The moment you stop playing, you see yourself becoming older faster.
Do not be curious for new things, and your brain will start to shut down.
Just wait and see.
Play! Or you will dry out like a prune.
Never give up playing.
Playing and remaining curious is your responsibility as a grown up.
Take care.
IDENTIFYING THE RIGHT ADVICE FOR YOU
A lot of gurus and coaches out there are sending the message that they are " the
only one who can help you", and all the others are wrong. They say all the
others are trying to benefit from you, but they don't, they are the only ones who
really want to help you, etc, etc, etc.
This way of talking is deceiving. Don't get me wrong, there are people out there
with very aggressive marketing campaigns, selling their products with very little
real help to offer. But we cannot put everyone in the same bag. Some
self-improvement sites are of great help. And some come from the heart, and
offer sincere advice.
I am not going to say my site is good, or my site is bad; that is for you to
decide. You are the only one who can tell if something is helpful or not. If it
is what you particularly want or need, or not. I can only offer what I have to
give and it is for you to decide if you need and can use the specific help that I
offer.
The truth is that when you are looking for help, only you know what helps you,
what suits you, what makes you tick and what does not stick to you.
You want to focus in finding the right person or help for you. The one that
speaks to you. It may be the best piece of advice but if we do not understand
it, what good can it do?
You may know a lot already and need just a small push, or you may be just
starting and eager to learn all there is out there.
You may be fast at understanding a long complicated piece of information. Or you
may be like most people, and need a little more explanation, a little more
dedicated attention.
What I am trying to say here is that no matter the kind of help that is being
offered out there, some will be beneficial to you and some not.
Some may be very interesting and fulfilling for certain people, while for others
it may be confusing and entangling, which can potentially even make matters
worse.
No one can speak to everyone; it is impossible. The same way we do not
understand just anyone or everyone. But some will make a profound impact in our
lives, or at least one that is sufficiently deep enough. Enough is a good word;
it is just what everyone needs. Enough help to succeed; just that amount, no
more, that will make it.
Let's look for advice, in all areas of our lives. When we find what we need at
the time, we should go for it, because it is our chance for improvement.
There is a very important factor that we should consider; the time factor. Don't
delay your progress. Do not delay your progress by all means.
Did you hear of time management? Well, I do not want to get into long and boring
explanations here. The point is the more you delay a decision, or the more you
delay taking action on what we have already decided, the more we delay our
progress.
How many times do we delay our decision to get help? How many times we delay
implementing good advice? And how many times do we realize with regret that we
should have already taken action on a certain matter. But it is not too late, it
never is. It is not too late, but it could have been done earlier, couldn't
it….?
We could already be somewhere else farther advanced into our own improvement
path, into our own unique success.
And for your own progress, once you identify that something is of help to you,
take action. Do not delay your progress!
Remember, every time you delay taking a decision you are delaying you. Your own
unique progress.
Take this suggestion or not, it is up to you too.
IDENTIFY YOUR OWN LEARNING PROCESS TO SUCCEED
The learning process is different for every one of us. Some like exhaustive
explanations, others like it short and sweet, others like to hear the naked truth
right in their faces, some like to hear examples or testimony, others just need a
logical and down to earth explanation. You name it.
People also have their own pace for learning. Some are faster, others are
slower. Some are fast but never finish anything. Some are slow but sure and
steady. Some have determination to get to the end and some not.
We all have different needs for help and ways of understanding.
Some can stay still, while some need to move, and tell you, I have seen them all.
Though I am always ready to be surprised.
Think, how do you learn? What do you need to get your brain engaged?
What is your style?
What kind of process works for you or not?
Know that there is no right or wrong. Any approach you take to learning is the
right approach. Allow yourself to be slow if that is the case, because some of
us need more time to process the information. Allow yourself to jump and dance
if that helps you.
Do not give up on what you want. And do not pay attention to those who accuse
you of being too “slow”, or too logical, or too much of anything they may accuse
you of. The most important thing is to get to the finish line and to
completion.
ORGANIZING CLUTTER WILL ACCELERATE YOUR SUCCESS
If you want to enjoy your life fully, avoid stress and walk faster towards
success you will have to start organizing clutter.
If you think that clutter only collects in our closets, you will benefit greatly
from reading this!
Even more, the concept I am going to talk about will make it easier to organize
your closets.
We go through life accumulating all kinds of knowledge, experiences,
opportunities and problems.
Every day represents a portion of what we experience and live through our entire
life.
Hence, we carry today all that we have lived till the present.
Every experience is kept in our brain.
All the information we accumulated is nicely put into "folders", similar to how
an office employee may do filing.
Further more the human brain works sort of like a computer does.
Our brain needs to defragment and classify the data.
Organizing clutter actually is one of the most important brain functions.
Our "computer brain' is so powerful that this process happens automatically.
Without us noticing it works hard at organizing clutter.
It all occurs very smoothly.
Our brain classifies and files, classifies and files, on and on.
Why does this happen?
The organizing clutter process makes it easy to retrieve information when we need it.
Otherwise it will take a long time, like when we try to find an object in a
disorganized place.
But there is a catch, we are the ones that decide which folder the data will go
into.
And when we do not deal with an issue, problem, information, etc., the brain
stores it in the "Pending To Deal With" folder.
You need to be aware of this "Pending folder" as it contains your entire mental
"to do list".
This folder appears like a pop-up ad, when least expected. And like it or not,
very often.
Its function is to remind you what you need to deal with.
"Pay attention to this" it says.
The issues you do not deal with will pop up once and again. Those from the very
past too.
The more issues, the more "pop ups", the more overload, and our "computer brain"
too will become obnoxious.
If you do not deal with them, you will have a nagging sensation about issues
unresolved.
Once they are resolved, then, and only then, the brain will erase them from the
"Pending Folder".
Deal with those issues. Start now organizing clutter accumulated in your brain.
Your closets can wait a little longer.
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www.uniqueselfsuccess.com
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